First Love Lasts Everlasting -Hong, Hyun Jae (Jessica)

25 Oct


Patricia was a 15-year-old high school cheerleader in her 10th year of Catholic school. Chuck was a basketball star, Imagea senior from the rough side of town. One night after a high school mixer where everyone danced to jukebox music, Chuck and a friend offered Patricia a ride home. Chuck held Patricia’s hand in the back seat, and when they got to her house, he walked her to the door. “Then he put both arms around me and kissed me gently on the lips,” recalls Patricia. “I thought for a fleeting moment that I was floating with angels in heaven.” The next instant, their bubble has burst when Patricia’s father turned on the porch light. “It was 49 years ago and I still remember nearly all the details,” says Patricia.


As a story mentioned above, the firsts affect us so powerfully. We may not remember the 4th real kiss we ever had, or the 20th—but we can almost certainly remember our first. This is known as the primacy effect. Memories like our first kiss or tryst, our first glimpse of the ocean, our first day of school, or the birth of a first child engage all our senses simultaneously.


ImageFirst love could happen at any age. First romance, first love, is something so special to all of us. Memories of first love are mostly fond ones but in certain cases, the memories could be highly painful also. Those who had experienced feelings of happiness, enthusiasm, excitement, and pride in their first love are much more likely to have stable, enduring relationships in their later lives. On the other hand, those who went through feelings of shame, guilt, hostility or fright during their first love tend to have weak relationships with others.

Even though it is true that we could fall in love any number of times in our life, the memories of first love would always remain fresh and occupy a special place in our hearts.


Isn’t it surprising?

We have to remember that we are emotionally virgins until we fall for the first time in love. Hence, the first love tends to have a much greater effect on our lives, whether we admit it or not. It is very difficult to be prepared for first love because it is a sudden experience. The emotional experiences that go with first love are very strong. We have to learn to understand them, sort them out and control them.

“You will never forget your first love. That’s what makes it so special. You love so hard, so deeply, and so intensely because you don’t know any different. It is the best until it is over. Then you hurt like you have never been hurt before. Eventually you love again, but you love differently. You will love more carefully, more cautiously. Just know that there is so much more love waiting for you, but there will always only be one first.”


First love makes us aware of what love is,

and as well as makes us aware of how to love.


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